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A month of loneliness

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Salaam Aleikum,

Its been eight years now since began my journey as a believer. It was actually during Ramadan I felt that Islam was the true religion and my heart was open by Allah to believe in Him. Maybe two or three weeks after Ramadan 2006 I said my shahada alhamdulillah. Truly the gates of Paradise are open and the devils are locked up during this blessed month allowing more people see the beauty of Islam and the Greatness and how Merciful Allah is. If you would have asked me to become a Muslim 6 months before this time I would definitely said no. It was so far away from me, the idea to believe in a God. But alhamdulillah Allah guides whom He wills, never loose open on people becoming Muslims.

During my first Ramadan I was living in my own little apartment by myself. I was 21 years old. I was the only Muslim (what I know of at least) in the suburb where I lived. 99 % Swedes and other percent was me. Since I wore the niqab I didn’t really feel of being out much there, I went out when I had to or if was going away somewhere. Being a convert you are very dependent on your sisters and brothers since you have no Muslim family of your own and many of us loose our old friends when converting. Your social network is very vulnerable, many are in great need of Muslims who can help and be there for you like your own blood family.

I remember every invitation i went to during this Ramadan. Weird hu? But they really really meant everything to me. During Ramadan most of us say salaam to everything and everyone around us, shutting out the world to focus on our deen. What many of us forget is that we also shut out a lot of people. People like me during my first Ramadan. Converts and even some of those “born and raised as a Muslim” might spend their Ramadan in loneliness. Yes some time alone is definitely good for you, specially during Ramadan, to focus on worship. Muslims who are married, have children, other family members, close relatives or even Muslim neighbors usually prepare and / or break fast together. The alternative to break my fast and eat iftar in the mosque was not an option, iftar was late and I didn’t want to go out by myself late at night. In non-Muslim countries the mosque might also be very far away from your home.

I remember those invitations during Ramadan because the gave me so much happiness and comfort. Being alone during Ramadan is hard. The thought of that everybody else is with their family but me is really hard to tackle. I was depending on their desire to invite people (me) over for iftar, I felt embarrassed to invite myself. Because it is just that time around iftar which is the most difficult time being alone. I know this will sound pathetic, but during this time Paltalk was very popular. So what I did every evening before and after iftar was to enter an islamic room and just listen. I didn’t participate in any debate or wrote comments, I just wanted to hear Muslims. Talking about Islam, their day, making dawah or talking about what they had to eat after maghrib.

Why I am telling you this is because there are many Muslims who will, just like I did in 2007, go through this blessed month in total loneliness. I ask you to think about your brothers or your sisters this Ramadan. Not only our own goals of this and that. Ramadan should be a month of activity, this should really be the month when we truly get to experience the feeling of brotherhood and not loneliness. If you know of somebody without family ask them over for iftar. Iftar is late? Let them sleep over. Take care of your Muslim brothers and sisters, everyone of us should love for others what we love for ourselves. Arrange something special for this group of Muslims, maybe an collective iftar at someones home or in the mosque. This is the time during Ramadan but Eid is also one of those times many converts are alone, spending their Eid all alone. Make an Eid breakfast or brunch for converters after the prayer or why not an Eid party where everyone is welcome of course.

Don’t forget us.

Islamic clothes – a review on products I bought

Salaam Aleikum,

Finding a perfect abaya, hijab, khimar, jilbab, niqab, skirt or sharwal pants is harder than it sounds. Many alternatives popes up but which store offers good quality clothes, the colors you want, the material you want or the design you want. And the delivery cost, how much will it be and can I trace the package? Can I trust this store, will the deliver the products I ordered or not? Or maybe deliver wrong products!

My way is to ask a friend who bought some clothes what she thinks of it and if she can recommend the shop and their products. So, I would share some of my experience and reviews on  internet shopping regarding Islamic clothes. AND PLEASE, if you have bought clothes from somewhere else and you really can recommend the store or a product please share! (I will add you’re comment / info to this post inshallah).

Nabira www.nabira.fr

Nabira is an Islamic online store located in France. I have ordered many of their “French Jilbab”. There are many models and I have only bought jilbab with skirt, jilbab with sharwal and jilbab 1 piece and all of them were in “crepe luxe”. The quality of the fabric is really good mashallah. I have big issues with the summer heat but alhamdulillah these clothes are really thin (but not transparent) and they make you feel cool even though it is really hot.

Some of them which I bought (and other sisters as well in Sweden) got jilbabs with very loose elastic sleeves. They should be tight so when you raise your arm the sleeve will stay put and not slide down. But some were so loose they needed to be fixed by ourselves. This is a tie-back model, so tie a knot behind your head to fixate the jilbab. On many of mine the seam breaks at the point where the tie-back band is sewn together with the rest of the fabric.

You can trace the delivery alhamdulillah and neither me or any of my sisters here in Sweden have had any problems with delivery or products never arriving. One of my friends got the wrong color though, a light tone instead of a darker tone of gray. I think the delivery cost is reasonable alhamdulillah.

In these pictures I have the black Jilbab “crepe luxe”  with skirt. (Ignore my weird hand pose in the last picture, think I was going to fix my niqab or something…. )

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Most of these clothes (mix of hijabs and jilbabs) are from Nabira, so there are mashallah many colors to choose from.

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 SunnahStyle www.sunnahstyle.com

Sunnah Style is an online store in Canada. I have ordered niqabs and hijabs from them. Mashallah they have different style of niqabs in different colors. I have tried their velcro niqab (my favourite), ordinary niqab models and two models with a wider opening (no-pinch) for sisters with glasses (yes, I wear glasses 🙂 ) The fabric is soft with a very high quality. I have washed them several times and they still keep it’s color and shape alhamdulillah.

I have ordered from them several times and alhamdulillah I never had any problems with delivery. You can’t trace the package (at least not when you order to Sweden 😉 ).

In the picture you see (from the left) a steel blue one piece niqab, a black narrow no-pinch and a steel blue no-pinch niqab.

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Niqab.co www.niqab.co

Niqab.co is the most recent online store I tried and it is an online shop in Turkey. I bought three different niqabs; one black with belt, a beige (cream) tie-back and a pink (rose) velcro. The quality of the fabric is really nice mashallah. The beige one is so soft mashallah (I could sleep with that one on) but unfortunate it was to transparent for me, so I have to fix it myself by adding a layer to it inshallah. But still I’m happy I bought it, finally someone selling niqab in light colors!

I did not have any problem with delivery and you can trace the package alhamdulillah.

In the picture you see the black one-piece belt niqab, the beige (cream) tie-back one-piece niqab and a two-layer rose niqab.

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