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A Pirate-Eid

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Salaam Aleikum,

I hop you all had a lovely Eid last week inshallah. We had, as you can imagine from my last post, a pirate theme for Eid at our home.

The boys got pirate swords and hats as little presents before we went out to find me (!) and the treasure. They wore full pirate costume with pants, belts, capes I made for them and hats. We already had some capes at home, like this one, so I used the one we already had to make a template. Alhamdulillah the design is really easy for the capes. Before Ramadan begun I went and bought the fabrics and also some fabric tape in gold for decorations. One of the capes and pants got some gems and diamonds as well (I used my glue gun to put them on).

 

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All pirates need a treasure map right? 😉 I soaked the paper in a little bit of water and crumbled it together. I let it dry and then I burned the edges. The map is not really accurate because it is only the “landmarks” which are important. First I drew all the pirates (my sons and husband 😉 ), then the first mark which was a tunnel, then a forest, then 2 little red houses and me (I was kidnapped by some really bad pirates who also stole the treasure), more trees and a skull and crossbones (this is were the treasure was hidden).

I didn’t think much about this map when I made it but subahnallah my boys were really obsessed with it haha. So it was definity something which made this activity more real to them. Even now, almost a week later, they still like to look at it and talk about it.

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Finally finding the pirate treasure filled with gold, gems, jewels, pearls and CANDY! : D

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We finished the day with some pirate cake ; ) alhamdulillah

 

 

Pirate theme for Eid – Diy Pirate Treasure

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Salaam Aleikum,

We (I) are slowly preparing our stuff for Eid this year alhamdulillah. Last years Eid’s with stress the days before and late nights really got me so tiered. Subhanallah, why does it alway get like that? : ) This year we are taking it slow, preparing little by little with plenty of time left.

My kids have become really interested in pirates the last couple of weeks, so I decided to spin on that trail. For Eid they will be getting this huge pirate treasure filled with gold (chocolate money), lollipops and a small toy (haven’t put it in yet). This was so much fun making! Really there is no wrong here, just go with the flow. A lot of stuff I bought from thrift finding stores alhamdulillah, you can’t really buy new stuff for this kind of project haha, it needs to have old things ; )

Pirate theme is easy fo me to do with my kids (very small) but if you have older kids this could be a muslim war booty mashallah : ) That is sooo much more fun than playing pirates. Now you are on your way to Badr, eager to win (or find) that war booty with the caravan filled with gold, gems and silk ; )

 

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Here is a quick tutorial how to make it:

1. Find a cardboard box, don’t take a too big box, and a simple sheet ? of cardboard.

2. Cut of the top.

3. Roll the cardboard sheet, this makes it’s so easier later when you bend it to become the lid. Then cut it so it will fit the box and have the right length, depends on how high you want it.

4. Glue it to the back of the box ( I used my gluegun for everything in this project, it goes so fast alhamdulillah!)

5. Cut out half circles to fit the sides of the lid. I just hold the lid in the shape I wanted. Then I drew it of on the cardboardsheet.

6. Tape or glue on the sides to the lid. the sides will keep the lid in shape.

7. I wrapped my box with a brow gift paper, you don’t have to do this, I did it because my box was a bit to damaged.

8. Use brown or black color to create that wood imitation on it.

9. Drape the inside with some beautiful fabric.

10. Glue on two belts (or just paint them in gold color)

11. Add some gold glitter anywhere you like.

12. Fill with CANDY! : )

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Ramadan crafts with kids – DIY papier maché Mosque!

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Salaam Aleikum,

The first activity card in our Ramadan Calendar had the task “build a papier mache mosque” but we were busy that day so on the second day of Ramadan we started this project and now 2 weeks later we are finally finished with it alhamdulillah : ) It wasn’t planed to make it this big or that it would take this long time. But alhamdulillah now when it’s finished I really like the size of it, the kids use it as a dollhouse.

It is really easy to make this and it doesn’t need to cost much either  but it takes time, waiting for the papier maché glue to dry and also the paint. When that is all finished it is so fun to decorate it and paint the little Muslim wood dolls.

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DIY papier maché mosque tutorial:

1. First thing to do is finding a box. Big or small it is up to you.

2. Cut out windows, doors and tape/glue on the minaret. Build that second floor for the sisters (if you want). I used a paper rolls as pillars for support and the top from a shoe box as the actual floor.

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3. Cut a magazine/newspaper in small pieces.

4. Make papier maché glue (kids safe!):

4 dl water

½ dl sugar

1 ½ tsb potato starch (potatismjöl)

Mix 2 dl of water with the potato starch until even. Boil the other 2 dl with the sugar. Remove the pan with water and sugar of the heat. Now pour in the water+potato starch. Stir constantly! Allow the mixture to heat up again but do not let it boil! Now you just have to wait until it cools. 

5. Cover the whole mosque and the parts you’ve built inside (for example if you’ve built an balcony) with the papier maché. Take a little bit of glue and smear it in the piece of newspaper and lay it on the mosque. Use a round bowl (or something similar) to make the dome, if you want one. I covered my bowl with plastic foil before covering it with papier maché. It can be very hard to get it of otherwise. The more layers of paper the stronger it will get.

I have many many layers of paper on the dome. Now it is so strong that my 4 year old can sit on it without breaking.

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6. Once the papier maché is dry it is time to paint the mosque. Depending on how much glue you have used and how many layers of paper this step (waiting for it to dry) might take 2 or more days. Choose a nice color and start painting!

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7. Gather what ever you want or need to decorate the mosque. I used my prayer mat as a carpet for the mosque. Found an old glass lantern which I re-designed a bit to fit in the mosque, looks almost like a real chandelier. I have printed images with bookshelves and glued them on the walls.

Made a small minbar and a place for wudoo (also with papier maché). This mosque is inspired by the mosque Hassan II in Morocco. I especially like the way the minaret is built. I found pictures on google with the mosaic and tiles from that mosque which I printed and used as decorations on the minaret and the place for wudoo. Decorated the walls inside with mini mirrors I had saved.

The dome and some parts of the minaret are painted with Martha Stewart Pearl Paint, fantastic color! It really shimmers so beautiful. Covered up the ugly bottom with fabric lace tape. The staircase to the second floor is made from a kitchen roll, cardboard pieces (as steps) and gold glitter paper.

I used a white glitter shimmering wallpaper to cover the inside of the doors to the mosque, the edge of the second floor and the pillars. The front of the mosque is decorated with small gems. I also used gold and silver glitter glue here and there ; )

 

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8. Now the mosque is done! alhamdulillah

9. Paint some wood dolls to be little mini Muslims who can visit the mosque, pray there, make wudoo, etc. The dolls are painted with acrylic paint.

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Ramadan calendar ideas and free printable tags!

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Giving you some glimpses of my first sale of Ramadan Calendars in 2013 : ) Long time ago and now a new Ramadan is soon again coming alhamdulillah. I have thought of some ideas of what to put in the calendars and also I have made two different tag designs for the calendars plus separate tags for adults.

1. Print tags and write different activities on them. Plan or think of these activities ahead. You know your child’s interests and level of understanding, so try to plan according to them.

2. Try to be well prepared for every activity

3. Be realistic, you are still fasting so even if the kids are up for 100 different activities, make/plan activities which doesn’tt make you totally exhausted.

4. Feeling really tired or you planed an outdoor activity, switch cards with another day. Always have some spare cards with an easy and simple activity.

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5. Filling the pockets with small gifts. I will have little gifts in mine, the kids will have one each every third or fourth day. I got a tip from another sister to buy these Christmas advent calendars and use these little toys as gifts in the calendar instead (Härifrån köpte jag mitt packet med små Mumin figurer). The toys in the red case is a flea market finds with all those small toys, most of them are from Kinder eggs. If your child is interested in painting and crafts fill pockets with color pencils, cute erasers etc. Or buy a big pack of Lego and divide up all the pieces to the pockets.

6. Candy in the pockets on Fridays : )

7. Other eatable things might be dried fruits like raisins, apricot, figs etc

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8. Ramadan Calendar tags free printable! Cut out with succors or an xacto knife, punch through a small hole in the colored circle and put a ribbon or string through it. If you prefer having more of a specific tag, among the ones for children, just print out that specific page and not all pages.

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Ramadan crafts and activities for children.

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Salaam Aleikum my dear friends,

Ramadan is soon here alhamdulillah! This blessed month we wait for all year long. I noticed during my years as a Muslim (soon 8 years alhamdulillah) when you become a parent you long for Ramadan also because it gives you a kick to start all those Islamic activities you been wanting to do with your children. This Ramadan my children have reached an age when they can understand some parts of it. And even if they can’t understand everything I feel it’s important to give them a special and warm feeling for this month. A month full with Qur’an, activities, ibadah, crafts and family time.

 

I love my Ramadan calendar mashallah. The reason is that it works as a tool for me to plan ahead and also getting the kids ready for an activity. I will put 30 little tags with different pictures on and on every tag I will write an activity. Some pockets will have a little present or candy (candy on Fridays). The kids will have to wait for the present, until Dhohr or Asr, teaching them patience just like we are taught it. Older kids, who might also be fasting, could perhaps wait until Maghrib to open the present. Anyway, I have thought of some activities to do with your children during Ramadan. You might have to adjust some of them to fit your own child’s interest’s and age.  I’ve organized them under different themes, here they are:

 

1. Mosque

Visit a mosque, or several mosques or a new one (you haven’t visited)

Talk about how to behave in the mosque

Donate dates to your lokal mosque

Break the fast in the mosque

Mosque history (find information about the first mosques in Islam)

Read, paint and talk about famous mosques from around the world (I love this page! Beautiful pictures and it is easy to search for mosques in a specific county or city: www.beautifulmosque.com)

 

2. Prayer

Go to your local mosque for a prayer

Make a prayerbook with your own pictures!

Go to jumuah

Pray all 5 prayers in the mosque

Talk about different prayers

Try to offer them (night prayer, duha, if it rains, itikhara etc)

Talk about the history of prayer/praying

The Isra and Mi’raj

Go to the mosque for taraweeh or night prayer

 

3. Neighbours

Visit a neighbor

Give your neighbor a gift

Invite your neighbor/s to iftar (talk about reward for offering someone iftar)

Talk about the rights of your neighbors

 

4. Family

Write a letter to a family member (small children can send a painting or a picture)

Talk about behavior towards family members (rights of the parent, the children and relatives)

Talk about each and everyone’s’ role in a Muslim family

Make something or perhaps do something nice to someone in your family

Buy eid gifts to family members and wrap them up real pretty 🙂

 

5. Zakah and Sadaqah

Make a jar for sadaqah

Pick out a charity organization and make a donation as a family

Make a garage sale / flea market and donate the money to charity

Talk about why we give sadaqah (reward and solidarity)

Zakat, why we give it, how much and when (make a role play of it with younger kids)

 

6. Friends (brother & sisterhood in Islam)

Visit a friend or invite a friend over

Talk about the history of brotherhood in Islam (Ansar & Muhajirun)

Make a role-play or theater of the relationship between Ansar and Muhajirun

Talk about / read about a sahabi or sahabiyat

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7. Cleaning and household tasks

Help mom / dad with….

Cleaning tasks (perhaps on Thursdays to have a clean home on Fridays)

Talk about reward for helping others

Help prepare food for iftar and/or suhoor

 

8. Baking

Bake something sweet to iftar

Bake something for neighbors

Bake something to a friend / family member / relative

Make Eid cookies

 

9. Iftar

Prepare dates for iftar (maybe the younger kids can have their own “mini iftar”, a little earlier during the day. Make it really cozy and beautiful, light candels, set the table and let them break fast with their own dates, have a beautiful dinner served by their parents) 😉

Make different tasty fillings for dates (there is many to try! Just google it and you will see what I mean)

Place dates in a box, wrap it yourself and give away as a gift to someone

Plan an iftar meny for the whole family

 

10. General Ramadan crafts

Make a mosque in papier mache

Make a mosque out of a box and toilettrolls, cover with paper (glue it on). This craft is less messy than the one above.

Make a landscape in papier mache (what are your kids interested in? Last year I did a mini model of the land and environment of Saudi Arabia and placed a mini kaba in the middle and laid out some animals who live/exist in Saudi. But perhaps your child is very interested in a specifik event, like Badr, then make it. Study togheter in books or online, search for pictures and then make a model of it)

Watch an Islamic movie / cartoon togheter

Sing Islamic nasheeds

Lay a puzzle (I recommend the puzzles from Learing Roots, very affordable and so beautifully made)

Make a mosque in a shoebox (like the picture above)

Make a du’aa jar (decorate a jar, fill it with notes of your du’aas)

Buy an Islamic game and play it together!

If your children are younger, play any game they like. The purpose is to do the activity together.

Good deed tree (paint a tree or make one with styrofoam ball, add a flower to it when your child does a good deed. Remember, a good deed could be just a smile 🙂 Talk about what is a good deed and what is a bad deed. Use pictures with younger children)

Search Google and Pinterest for many great ideas of Ramadan crafts!

 

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11. Islam / History 

Ramadan and it’s history

Islams five pillars (Lots of craft ideas here)

Talk about great battles in Islam (make a collage about it)

Allahs Names and Attributes (make your own tree in paper, create leaves with Allahs Name on each. Put one up after you talked about it and so on)

Famous buildings or universities

Allahs creations (go out in the nature, see the beauty and perfection of everything Allah created. Make a collage about it. Or bring something of it home like flowers, stones, pine cones and make a craft with them.

Talk about a male or female role modell (from the prophets (and theirs wives), other “famous” belivers, Prophet Muhammad, who is our best role model)

Read about the person you are named after (if your child is named after a specific person in Islams history)

Draw your own map over different locations (Mekkah, Medinah, the route of Prophets hijrah to Medinah etc)

Read a surah your child has memorized and talk about what the surah is about when it was revealed.

Listen to different reciters of the Quran (different ways it is recited in or reciters from different countries)

 

12. Eid and crafts

Make a Eid garland with letters

Make a gingerbread mosque

Make Eid cards to friends, family and neighbors

Take an Eid picture and send it to relatives

Make Eid cookies or cake

Make Eid decorations (Click here for some ideas)

Talk about rules regarding Eid (make them in pictures for younger children)

 

 

If you have any suggestions or an activity you did with your children, please share with us and I will put it up in the list inshallah 🙂

 

 

 

Ramadan calendar

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Salaam Aleikum

Some of you asked about the purpose of a Ramadan calendar. The first one I made for Ramadan 2012 for my own children. As a mother I felt a bit lost how to make Ramadan feel special for the children. I wanted to have some kind of daily islamic activity for them but I found it hard to how and when (finding a good time) to begin the activity. So the idea of a calendar came up. These are some ideas how to use it:

Prepare 30 notes with 30 different subjects or activity themes for the children and put one not in every pocket. A subject could be for example the word “mosque” and then it is up to you as a parent to make a plan what to do. You could visit a mosque, paint a mosque at home, build a mosque with papier maché, read about mosques and so on. Of course you choose the activity which suits the age and interests of your child/children.

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On special days, like Fridays, you can put some special things in the pocket: dates, candy, raisins, a small toy or whatever your child likes.

Choose a time to start and stick to that time as much as you can. I recommend to choose a time close to a prayer time, for example after dhohr prayer you and the children gather around the calendar to see whats inside the pocket. If you have sweets in the calendar, don’t let the children open the pocket in the morning. Ramadan is the month of fasting and patience. Learn your kids to have patience and let them wait, maybe until ‘asr or maghrib prayer, before you let them open the pocket and see what’s inside. This teaches them to have patience and wait for the sweets, just like us adults who fasts.

If you want to have the calendar for yourself you can put cards with different hadith, ayaat, reminders or some special task to do (example read one page of Quran, memorize one hadith and so on). Last year I also made a card template with ayaat from Quran and some hadith.

Suggestions for different themes and what to talk about them or have an activity:

Neighbors: How to treat you neighbors, go and visit a neighbor or give a gift to a neighbor.
Adhan: When do you call the adhan, what do you say when you make adhan, listen to adhan from different countries, go to the mosque and litsen live.
Paradise: How does it look in Paradise, what things are there, what do you wish for to have in Paradise, which people will come to Paradise.

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Förra året gjorde jag aktivitetskort med olika rubriker/teman till Ramadan kalendern. Korten var tänkta att fungera som ett hjälpmedel till dig som förälder att börja prata och utföra aktiviteter som anknyter till Islam tillsammans med ert barn.

Varje rubrik kan både vara ett ämne du och ditt barn pratar om eller att ni gör någonting praktiskt som anknyter till rubriken. Du som förälder avgör vad exakt ni ska göra eller prata om i enlighet med barnens förståelse, ålder och intresse.

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Lite tips och inspiration:

Tungan – Varför man ska tänka på vad man säger och varför man ska säga goda saker, öva på att bara säga snälla och goda saker.
Grannar – Hur behandlar man sina grannar, hälsa på din granne, ge en gåva till en granne.
Adhan – När ropar man adhan, vad säger man exakt, lyssna på adhan från olika länder, prova själv att säga adhan, åk till mosken och lyssna live.
Paradiset – Hur ser det ut i paradiset, vad är det som finns där, vad önskar du dig i paradiset, vilka är det som finns där.
Profeter – Hur blir man en profet, läs och prata om en profet, bygg eller rita staden som en profet kom till.

How Prophet Muhammad Reprimanded Children

A child is seen near members of the Muslim community attending midday prayers at Strasbourg Grand Mosque in Strasbourg

Beautiful reminder for especially us parents how to be with our children. This is the true source we should get help and advice from when we feel confused about the parenting role, who can be a better guide, teacher and a role model for us than Prophet Muhammad? Sallallahu ‘aleihi wa Sallam

 

“Go away!”

“Stop it, you nuisance!”

Is it not considered ‘normal’ in most societal circles today for adults to address minor children in such a tone, and with derogatory words?

Parents, teachers, and other caregivers can lose their patience with the naughty mischiefs of children very quickly, especially if these children are extremely intelligent, curious, energetic, bold, self-confident and spirited.

Children are a big blessing of God. Having children and raising them righteously lays the foundation of a stable extended family structure.

Whilst most of us are well-aware of and regularly exhort the great rights of parents in Islam, we tend to overlook the fact that little children are also born with certain Islamic rights that we have to fulfill as an obligation. Even the unseen, unheard fetus in the womb has rights, which can delay the distribution of inheritance, as well as affect the rulings regarding divorce in Islam.

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) handled many situations involving the antics and natural tendencies of infants and minor children with exemplary patience and good-naturedness.

As God has commanded us in the Quran to emulate Prophet Muhammad as a ticket to earning His ultimate pleasure with us in the Hereafter, we should see how the Prophet corrected or reprimanded small children whenever they did something that could, in the modern world, severely test the patience and tolerance of most stressed-out, quick-to-snap adults.

Tolerance for Infant Messes

Babies under the age of one are cuddly, chubby and adorable; bundles of joy that everyone loves to hold, kiss, hug, coo over and carry around.

That is, until they do something smelly and leaky in their diaper.

As soon as that happens, the hitherto adoring adult (especially a male one) who is holding them, immediately scrunches up their nose in disgust and hands them over to the mother or nanny for cleanup.

However, this was not what the Prophet did in such a situation. He would often take infants in his lap, even though in that era there were no leak-proof diapers!

Narrated Aisha:

“A boy was brought to the Prophet to do tahnik for him, but the boy urinated on him, whereupon the Prophet had water poured on the place of urine.” (Al-Bukhari)

Prophet Muhammad refrained from expressing disgust or immediately denying a newborn baby his lap even when the baby urinated on his clothes! This indicates his exemplarily high level of tolerance for babies’ natural phases, as it is normal for newborns to urinate often.

The lesson for us in this habit of Prophet Muhammad is to not get irritated at the natural, physical messes that babies tend to make (such as nose emissions, excreta, or regurgitated milk), even if the mess gets on our clothes. We should also help clean up the mess without considering it beneath our social dignity to do so.

Tolerating Natural Toddler Antics

Babies grow older to become active and energetic toddlers (known nowadays as ‘preschoolers’), who love climbing on to the laps and backs of adults and playing “rough house”.

It is well known that the Prophet not just allowed children in this age-range inside hismasjid during obligatory congregational prayers, but also patiently tolerated their antics during prayers, even if these antics caused noise or disturbance.

Reported by Abdullah ibn Shaddad from his father:

“The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came out to lead us in either maghrib or ‘isha’ one night, and he was carrying Hassan or Husain. The Messenger of Allah came forward and put (the child) down, then he saidtakbir and started to pray. During the prayer, he prostrated and made his prostration long.

My father said: “I raised my head and I saw the child on the back of the Messenger of Allah whilst he was prostrating, so I returned to my prostration.”

When the Messenger of Allah finished praying, the people said:

“O Messenger of Allah, during your prayer you prostrated for so long that we thought something had happened or that you were receiving Revelation.”

He said:

Nothing at all happened, but my son was riding on my back and I did not want to disturb him until he had had enough. (An-Nisa’i)

This hadith is another great example of how tolerant the Prophet was regarding children’s naughtiness. Imagine a small child in the age-range 2-4 (who can be carried easily) climbing on to the back of a masjid’simam during prostration nowadays. What do you think his reaction would be?

Yet, Prophet Muhammad lengthened his prostration just to let the child continue his enjoyment and innocent play, hereby causing some concern and undoubtedly a bit of chagrin to the worshippers praying behind him in the congregation.

Using His Hands Gently to Reprimand

Children love physical displays of affection, and like being touched in a positive manner. Instead of subjecting them to long monologues and lectures to correct their mistakes, physically removing them from harm is more effective.

Narrated Abu Hurairah:

“Dates used to be brought to Allah’s Messenger immediately after being plucked. Different persons would bring their dates till a big heap collected (in front of the Prophet). Once Al-Hassan and Al-Husain were playing with these dates, one of them took a date and put it in his mouth. Allah’s Messenger looked at him and took it out from his mouth and said: “Don’t you know that Muhammad’s offspring do not eat what is given in charity?” (Al-Bukhari)

The Prophet taking the date out of his grandson’s mouth himself whilst giving him a short explanation of the reason, deployed the most effective strategy of quickly resolving the situation. Which small child would willingly spit a tasty, sweet date out from their mouth themselves?

Most parents today, however, keep shouting at a small child to not touch an object or to stay away from a dangerous area, all the while being ignored by the child. They then snap and give the child a harsh scolding in front of everyone for not listening to them.

The lesson from this hadith about the correct thing to do in such a situation is for an adult to get up quickly and physically remove the small child from harm, warning them about the reason in brief words.

The hadith below also corroborates this strategy:

Anas said:

“Allah’s messenger was one of the best of men in character. One day, he sent me to do something, and I said: “I swear by Allah that I will not go”. But in my heart I felt that I should go to do what the Prophet of Allah had commanded me. So I went out and came upon some boys who were playing in the street. All of a sudden Allah’s Messenger, who had come up behind, caught me by the back of the neck, and when I looked at him, he was laughing. He said: “Go where I ordered you, little Anas”. I replied: “Yes, I am going, messenger of Allah!” (Abu Dawud)

Prophet Muhammad used a combination of physical touch and gentle reprimanding words to make little Anas realize his forgetfulness. The Prophet knew that it is natural for a little boy to get distracted from an errand by other children’s street games.

This hadith also indicates that when a child passes the toddler stage, it is permissible to train them to do light, easy tasks for adults, but to remember that it is normal for him or her to resist immediate obedience and to get distracted by other children’s play.

Explaining Concisely for Correction

When a child becomes older i.e. beyond the age of 6-7, he or she reaches the age of mentally understanding what is right and what is wrong. When he encountered such a child doing something the wrong way, the Prophet would gently and concisely correct them and explain to them how to do it right, without scolding harshly or making them feel humiliated in front of others.

Umar ibn Abu Salamah reported:

“I was a boy under the care of the Messenger of Allah, and as my hand used to wander around in the dish, he said to me once:

“Mention Allah’s Name (i.e., say Bismillah), eat with your right hand, and eat from what is in front of you.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Little children have short attention spans, high energy levels, and an extremely curious nature due to which they want to explore everything in the world, most of which is still very new to them. However, we can misinterpret their natural actions and reactions to situations in a negative manner, unless we proactively practice patience with their behavior without belittling, rebuking or reprimanding them harshly and unjustly.

Because little children are a sacred trust from God, we should remind ourselves not to be harsh with them. God is not even writing their “sins” yet, even if they deliberately break a precious piece of crockery, or touch anything in our cupboards or drawers that we have kept strictly off limits.

As parents, if we lose patience with our children and treat them wrong, we should immediately and sincerely repent for it before Allah. Parents who do not regret nor repent for the wrongs they committed towards their children when the latter were young, weak and dependent upon them, end up being faced with resentful and aloof offspring in their old age, because their little ones grew up with disturbing childhood memories that morphed into a deep grudge over the years.

By regularly reading and studying the Prophet’s loving and mild behavior with children, we can prevent ourselves from treating children in a manner that could displease God and detriment our relationship with them in the long term.

 

By Sadaf Farooqi  (source)

Yes, fajr is sweet….

Salaam Aleikum,

A couple of days ago I talked with a sister about the prayer and how it sometimes is difficult for us to hold on to our prayers, pray in it’s correct time. Some prayers are more difficult than others. Fajr is sometimes very hard because of how much the times changes for it during the year. But the sister, may Allah reward her, told me she had found a new app mashalla. It’s called “Never miss Fajr”, if you don’t have it already you should download it now. Alhamdulillah it’s for free.

Forget your 10 alarm clocks this is the only thing you need to wake up for fajr inshaallah! You decide yourself when the alarm should go off and there are alternatives for alarm sounds (either athan or a classic alarm tone). This is the part which makes this app unique. You choose, either you shake the phone in the air 20 times or answer questions about Islam. You have to shake 20 times and each time must be approved by the phone. Likewise for the questions, you have to answer five questions and you will continue to get new questions until you have five correct answers. After this is done the alarm will shut of : )

I tried this app for the first time yesterday. I got to bet way to late subhanallah but alhamdulillah I woke up by the alarm. But unfortunately I had an 2-year old next to me in bed who also woke up like a sunshine to see mommy’s phone. You know that move Nemo, when the birds the Nemo’s dad and Dory, everyone keeps repeating “mine, mine, mine”. This was the same situation. I had chosen questions so while I try to pick the right answer, someone else is pulling my phone, touching the screen and answering some questions as well. It took a while haha but alhamdulillah I finally got the little fingers away from the phone to answer the questions. The alarm goes of. Do you think I could fall asleep again after that? Nope 😉

Read more here about the app 

Dockteater / Puppet theater

In my last post I showed you how to make your own puppet theater. Yes, the post was in Swedish but I hope you could follow along by looking at the pictures inshallah. I would just like to give you some ideas how and why to use a puppet theater.

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Firstly, when you set up a theater with your kids the will play different roles in the act. The play could be spontaneous or perhaps you decided a specific theme and characters. This is a perfect way to learn your kids about Islam or anything else important to them. Playing a role in a theater (or any other time when kids play) gives them a better understanding of the person they act as. Teaching children about the history of Islam or the biography of prophets is not always easy. Or any other aspect of the Muslim life, hajj for example is not easy for even adults to understand how it’s done. It will be easier for children to understand something from the past or future if you take that situation and let it happened here-and-now, as this make the “event” or person more graspable.  So let’s make a theater of it!

1. If you as a parent plan and organize the play or theater always let the children’s interests be the base. If they find it interesting and fun it will be easier to get them involved, you get the idea.

2. If you need guidance, pick a book or something else to guide you. I really like and recommend products and books from Learning Roots.

3. Decide theme, person or event. Prepare the children what you are going to do. Read or tell them about the subject and the story and then plan how you are going to do the play.

4.You might need to buy some materials or make them yourself. I made the theater from an cardboard box and the other material I already had at home, so this was a very cheap project. Dolls to the theater could be made out of toilet rolls and a round wooden / styrofoam ball (google “toilet roll people” and you will see what I mean).

5. Be creative! Yes, I know it’s hard to be creative if you don’t even know how to begin. Here is my tips to get started: Use something concrete to start the play or activity. It could be a puppet theater like ours or a smaller version made out of a shoe box. It can be a carpet or blanket you gather at, turn down the lights a bit to create a special feeling for the activity.

6. If the children are small you might have to play a BIG part in the theater, but the older they get it is easier for them to take full responsibility for the play.

7. AND, afterward try to talk the children about the play. What happened in the play? Who did what? Why did they do it? What did you like/dislike? What do you think they felt? Of course there are more topics to discuss but these are just examples to get you started.

 

If you have any more tips or ideas you are welcome to write a comment about it : )

 

 

DIY Dockteater / Puppet theater

För ett tag sedan fick vi denna enorma kartong. Tjock och stabil var den också, perfekt för ett pyssel projekt alhamdulillah. En liten dockteater fixades lite provisoriskt på några minuter. Sågade ut fönster och en liten dörr på baksidan, gardinerna hade redan färdigsydda kanaler så det var bara att hänga upp med ett snöre. Kanske inte så snyggt men det gick ju bra ändå ; )

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Efter en massa lek och stoj i teatern hade den gått sönder på en del ställen. Partiet ovanför fönstret var nästan helt sönder. Jag började med att laga det värsta med silvertejp sedan byggde jag på med papier maché (hemgjort av socker, vatten och potatismjöl), vilket blir stenhårt när det väl torkat. Nu var den ännu fulare, så då åkte penseln och rollern fram. Jag och pojkarna målade på, tyvärr räckte inte färgen till taket eller dörren. Vi använde vanlig väggfärg, gick hur bra som helst mashallah.

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Sen dog vårt lilla projekt ett tag, mycket att göra med annat och med hemmet. Men den stod där i barnens rum och stirrade på mig, haha. Dag ut och dag in. Alhamdulillah nu under lovet hade jag tid att fixa det sista, taket och lite skojiga dekorationer. Cirkus är temat, vilket känns passade till en teater. Taket klädde jag i glittrigt tyg jag köpt från Panudro. Jag använde bara limpistol för att fästa tyget. Partiet ovanför fönstret såg fortfarande inte så bra ut trots färgen så det täckte jag med kraftigt svart papper piffat med scallop-mönster. Till glitter-ränderna har jag använt ett självhäftande glitterpapper. Gulddraperier blev det också alhamdulillah. Är riktigt nöjd, den blev fin mashallah hoppas bara den håller ett tag till.

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